How to Turn Every Trigger Into a Gift

We are constantly creating our own reality, and we are alone in it; we are the only ones who see everyone and everything around us as we do.

We all carry a whole universe inside of us.

When we are born, we aren’t yet shaped by conditioning—from our parents, ancestors, or society. We are present, see things as they are, enjoy the present, and mostly see life as a playground.

Fast-forward to adult life, and we might begin to see more clearly how we are “affected” by what is around us. We might also begin to become conscious that what we perceive with all our senses isn’t reality; it is the one we create.

At each moment, we have a choice to see a person who triggers us as a problem or a gift. Without consciousness, we only see the problem, we want to avoid that person, or worse, we cannot avoid getting into an argument, and (worse) unconsciously fall into anger.

The same process applies to events (like a global war that takes center stage), places (being in a city or in nature), and objects themselves. The more sensitive we get, the more a simple object or even a rock can feel like a positive energy to us or something to avoid by any means.

Everything has energy. The more we perceive it, the harder it gets to deal with those people, places, events, or things we label as “negative.”

There is always an alternative, at any moment, to create a different reality.

Instead of just seeing someone as annoying or negative, I try to wonder why I attracted this person near me or why that person suddenly showed up in my life.

Instead of reacting as ‘me,’ I try to step back and observe the interaction—as if I’m watching both of us from the outside. Same with events, places, and objects.

That observer position is easy to forget, but it should be my view at all times. There are many ways to practice that awareness, such as meditation, yoga, spiritual work, and plant medicine.

Practicing seeing everyone and everything, including myself, from an outside perspective, is key at all times. Remembering that we are all in our own reality and universe comes next.

Then comes the most important step:

Switch my own reality to “everyone, and everything is here around me for a reason that is absolutely perfect.”

In other words, I work on switching what I see as negative into a gift.

Everything changes suddenly. This challenging situation is a gift for me, helping me learn to deal with it. This “annoying” person could be a mirror of me, and I am “triggered” because I have the same “issues” inside me; otherwise, I would not be triggered.

Everyone and everything is always an opportunity to learn to change my reality.

Change your perception, and you change your behavior. Change your behavior, and you change your future.

I am not talking about dumb positivity. Of course, I would rather not see any country send 100 bombs in 10 minutes, mostly killing innocent people. But I can choose how it affects me and what I create in my reality as I face this event.

The moment I treat everything as a gift and as something I can improve with—even the uncomfortable parts—my reality changes. And when my reality changes, so does my life.